so we've all been there at one point and time; wondering where we stand with people in our lives because they didn't respond to our text/call. we'll send a text to someone, they won't respond...and then we'll see them on social media tweeting up a storm. crazy, right? ya ever ask yourself, why is it that my text messages and calls go unanswered? it could be because you fall into one of these categories. don't tweak though, cause you might not fall into these categories--- there's always the realization that your friends just might not like you. whichever case, here's some of the reasons calls and text messages tend to go unanswered amongst your family, friends and peers. 

6). your conversations lack substance. 

if you can't hold a worthwhile conversation, there's really no use in me answering the phone for you or responding to your text messages. let's face it, in a world where people are constantly moving and are on the go, it's important that the time that we do spend conversing with friends, family members and associates is time well spent. if your conversations lack substance, chances are there's really nothing to you beyond the surface--- and there's only so far you'll get. if all you have to offer is a "wyd", "hml" or anything of the like when we speak, you won't always get a response, period. you know why? because people aren't missing out on much by not communicating with you (because you like substance). harsh reality. 

5). you only reach out when you want or need something. 

don't be this person. and if you are this person, that's probably the reason nobody wants to talk to you. now, if you legitimately aren't good at maintaining relationships with your friends and you are working toward being better, that's one things. however (comma) if you are bad at maintaining relationships with your friends until you need something, that's something different. that's what i'd like to call, classless and selfish. and the crazy thing is, people who do this don't even realize they are doing it because they are just that self absorbed (it's really ridiculous). these are the folks that can never hold a conversation with you to see how you're doing but always seem to ask can they hold a couple of dollars because they're between blessings. nah, bruh. hate to break it to ya, but your messages will continue to go unread and your calls will keep getting sent to voicemail. if you want a better friend, be a better friend.  

4). all you wanna do is gossip. 

in all honesty, gossip is entertaining and all but if that's all you have to bring to the table, you may be among those whose calls and texts are going unnanswered as well. you know why? because as individuals, it's important that we protect our ear gates and our eye gates. that means we have to be mindful of what we watch and what we hear. so, it's deeper than you just being an all around messy person who has nothing to bring to the table but other people's business (even though that's actually not ok either). it's about me needing to protect my peace and my positivity by any means. if your gossip compromises that, you may need to be kept at a distance... sorry, not sorry. 

3). you're too needy.

in a nut shell, this means you require too much. you expect people to respond within ten minutes of you sending a text message, all of your missed phone calls must be returned by the end of the business day, and you insist on text message replies that are complete sentences because you hate one words responses. it's like communcating with you comes with a complete set of rules. but lemme let you in on something; you're doing entirely too much. fact of the matter is, nobody is obligated to hit you up, ya know? and if it's always gotta be about you, even when it's not about you, you'll end up talking to yourself because no one else will want to be bothered, forreal. 

2.) when it comes to you, there's always something wrong. 

listen up bad news brenda and pessamistic phillip. stop being so unhappy all the time. it's irritating. it's cool that sometimes you need someone to vent to and give you advice. but if you always need me to be a therapist, psychologist, mediator or anything of the sort, that's a reason not to take your calls/texts. people get tired of always having to pour into you, especially if it's not reciprocated. plus, if something is always wrong in your life... maybe you need to stop being a lawyer for your vices and focus on being a judge. maybe then you'll get the revelation that you seek each time you hit your friends up with the same life complaints. 

1). they are legitimately doing something at the times you reach out. 

oftentimes, it's easy for people to assume that they are being shaded when people don't answer the phone for them or return their text messages. now, i'm not gonna lie... most of the time, you probably are being curved because they simply don't wanna hear from you based on the fact that you exude characterisitcs and qualities that were previously listed. but sometimes, it's not that deep. forreal. sometimes, you they may just be wrapped up each time you hit them up-- it happens. and people forget to hit you back, it happens. don't get mad, get glad. sweating the small stuff won't make life any easier for you, so try not to stress yourself out too much.